Resources I Recommend
Here are some of the books which I personally find useful and which I would like to recommend.
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I trust that this reading helps provide you with the stimulation, learning and hope that you need to continue to build relationships with(in) yourself and with others.
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Fishpond is a NZ based company and please note that if you buy resources via these links, I may receive a small referral fee. This fee is included in the price, never added on. As you can see, there are some great specials on these books and postage is free!
I trust that this reading helps provide you with the stimulation, learning and hope that you need to continue to build relationships with(in) yourself and with others.
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An Emotionally Focused
Workbook for Couples
The Two of Us
This book is a MUST HAVE for couples who are serious about creating a secure relationship bond!
The second edition of this essential and newly updated workbook is intended for use with couples who want to enhance their emotional connection or overcome their relationship distress. It closely follows the course of EFT treatment and allows clinicians to easily integrate guided reading, reflection, and discussion into the therapeutic process.
Incorporating new developments in EFT and decades of research in the field of attachment, Veronica Kallos-Lilly and Jennifer Fitzgerald include chapters that explore concepts such as attachment bonds, the three cycles of relationship distress, how to make sense of emotions, relationship hurts and more.
The workbook follows the familiar and accessible format of the first edition, Read, Reflect, and Discuss, and weaves fresh, illustrative examples throughout, with updated content considering the impact of gender, culture, and sexual orientation on relationship dynamics. Added reflections on these topics and an expanded section on sexuality dispels constraining popular myths and frees partners up to express themselves more openly.
This book is essential reading for partners looking for helpful steps to improve the quality of their romantic relationships as well as marriage and family therapists, couple therapists and clinicians training in EFT to use with their clients.
Hold Me Tight
Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
This excellent book, written by Sue Johnson, outlines the basis for EFT
relationship therapy.
"At last, a road map through Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with its creator. Dr. Johnson's superb science, humor, and clinical wisdom are finally accessible to all of us. I couldn't pick a smarter, warmer, and more real guide for the journey."
- John Gottman, PhD, bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
"Dr. Sue Johnson is the most original contributor to couples therapy to come
along in the last thirty years.
This book will touch your heart, stimulate your mind, and
give you practical strategies for improving your marriage."
- Barry McCarthy, PhD, author of Getting It Right the First Time
Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
This excellent book, written by Sue Johnson, outlines the basis for EFT
relationship therapy.
"At last, a road map through Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with its creator. Dr. Johnson's superb science, humor, and clinical wisdom are finally accessible to all of us. I couldn't pick a smarter, warmer, and more real guide for the journey."
- John Gottman, PhD, bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
"Dr. Sue Johnson is the most original contributor to couples therapy to come
along in the last thirty years.
This book will touch your heart, stimulate your mind, and
give you practical strategies for improving your marriage."
- Barry McCarthy, PhD, author of Getting It Right the First Time
Love Sense
The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships
By Dr. Sue Johnson
The bestselling author of "Hold Me Tight" presents a revolutionary new understanding of why and how we love, based on cutting-edge research. Every day, we hear of relationships failing and questions of whether humans are meant to be monogamous.
LOVE SENSE presents new scientific evidence that tells us that humans "are" meant to mate for life. Dr. Johnson explains that romantic love is an attachment bond, just like that between mother and child, and shows us how to develop our "love sense"--our ability to develop long-lasting relationships.
Love is not the least bit illogical or random, but actually an ordered and wise recipe for survival.
LOVE SENSE covers the three stages of a relationship and how to best weather them; the intelligence of emotions and the logic of love; the physical and psychological benefits of secure love; and much more.
Based on groundbreaking research, LOVE SENSE will change the way we think about love.
Make Love Work
This very readable book is written by Kiwi therapist Nic Beets
'Insightful, practical and inspiring . . . required reading for anyone in or venturing into a relationship.'-Jennifer Ward-Lealand, actor and intimacy coordinator
We all want to make the most of our relationship. We hope it will be the centre of joy and satisfaction in our life. Yet so often we end up hurt, frustrated or resentful.
If you've wondered why your relationship has stalled or why you find intimate partnerships so hard; why you behave the way you do or why you can't make sense of what your partner does, Make Love Work explains it all.
It gives you the tools you need to be successful in love -from preventing your insecurities and neurobiology from wrecking your relationship to being a team player and handling conflict well.
There are practical strategies for handling common areas of stress: fairness, sex and intimacy, parenting, money and setting boundaries. Plus, excellent advice on the really tough issues: infidelity, abuse, major stresses, loss and grief.